My Beloved Son Part 15

Letters to Fathers & Sons;

Part 15

Many years ago, I discovered this beautiful message on Web; I share it in its original form:

*Father’s Love Letter; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xHBQQHSbavY

*Based on Psalm 139; Bible. Can it be true? More than you know!

“Holy Spirit Come-Touch every heart of a son-his inner man, wounded and disappointed as a child! Touch every father, who has been wounded by his son’s rejection and hardening heart.

Holy Spirit, it is promised in Isaiah 61, You would come and restore and heal the generations, restoring crushed families and lives. Forgive our sins, as we forgive each other, and heal us with LOVE! LORD, only You can give and forgive, causing us to forgive and be forgiven. You give us grace with hope, faith, love that covers our failures, and leads us into a true love and appreciation for who You Designed, Created, and Now Call us to be!

“In the Lord Jesus Christ, ABBA: is my true Father. Teach me as a man, to be a true son to You. I in turn, will point my sons to You, as the True and Faithful Father. I yield to You! I honor You Father, as your beloved son. Thank you for reconciling me to Yourself. Now, reconcile me to others, as sons of GOD; Peacemakers; In Jesus Name; Amen.” (Matthew 5)  

My brother and I grew up on a farm with five sisters. My sisters all learned to cook, clean, wash, work hard keeping a clean house and managing time and house hold chores and gardening. My brother and I learned to work in the barns feeding animals, cleaning stalls, driving tractors, trucks, and farm chores milking cows and farm and fence repairs. Dad and mom both kept lists of work to do and checked our chores every day. Nobody left home without those chores finished. Time management was critical and disciplined life style enforced! No slackers!

Years later, we discussed our life style as harsh and over disciplined! But, as we all considered our various jobs where we worked, we were all amazed at how many adults had very poor work habits or discipline, in private or work or relationships. We discovered, due to our parenting, all of us were entrepreneurial and able to manage ourselves, time, budgets and schedules.     

Even my brother and I bemoaned how even stacking hay taught us many things about critical thinking skills. For example, managing strength, size, decision-making from bottom of hay- stack to top, that it was weaved properly so as not to need tying, as bales of hay were woven properly to hold each-other up.

Now, my brother is a foreman working in a metal shot where parts are made and stacked on trucks, stacking is critical for balance and security of load. We were both amazed how many times in his work, men were like boys unable to see and understand the obvious, it seems.

Over and over, we discover fatherlessness of men, acting and working like boys who need constant supervision. In talking with them about their life, he discovered, most men, had no innate self-disciplined skills or work ethic engrained from their fathers. They were like boys fighting constantly for survival! Many grew up as latch-key kids fending for themselves; untrained. Many grew up in homes without their true father-good or bad! Mother’s cannot do a “father’s job imparting sonship, in father/son relationship!” No exception!      

Father God, desires a living and thriving relationship with His sons. Jesus came to make manifest what that looks like. John, the last disciple of Christ, wrote an amazing fatherly letter to Believers in Christ; He writes: “My Beloved Children!” Then begins to write describing where they are in their relationship with Christ! With ABBA! And with each other.

Little Children; Young men; Fathers:

My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. ² And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world.

³ Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. ⁴ He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. ⁵ But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him. ⁶ He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.

⁹ He who says he is in the light, and hates his brother, is in darkness until now. ¹⁰ He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him. ¹¹ But he who hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes.

¹²   I write to you, little children, because your sins are forgiven you for His name’s sake.

¹³   I write to you, fathers, because you have known Him who is from the beginning.

I write to you, young men, because you have overcome the wicked one.

I write to you, little children, because you have known the Father.

¹⁴   I have written to you, fathers, because you have known Him who is from the beginning.

I have written to you, young men, because you are strong, and the word of God abides in you, and you have overcome the wicked one.

¹⁵ Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. ¹⁶ For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. ¹⁷ And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever. 1 John 2.

These are amazing relationships written out here! Love: Children, Young men, Fathers. Note the amazing relationship and inter-dependence we have in relationship with GOD and each other. We need ABBA! We need Fathers demonstrating ABBA Heart for His Children!

The Overcomers-Young Men who are victors against their own flesh and growing in their Identity. They are also developing through disciplines of ABBA. Men who have become disciplined and independent as men and fathers now can engage children and young men to strengthen them to overcome and welcome them to their True Identities!

¹⁵ For though you might have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet you do not have many fathers; for in Christ Jesus I have begotten you through the gospel. ¹⁶ Therefore I urge you, imitate me. ¹⁷ For this reason I have sent Timothy to you, who is my beloved and faithful son in the Lord, who will remind you of my ways in Christ, as I teach everywhere in every church. 1 Corinthians 4.

Paul, has led Timothy to Christ Jesus, then discipled him to follow Christ, as Paul follows Christ. He did not teach Timothy to follow Paul! He taught Timothy to follow Christ LIKE Paul followed Christ! 10,000 teachers in Christ are teaching others to follow them! That is why few escape the walls of the church to actually engage their own adventure is walking with CHRIST AS MEN! Most are trained to stay in training under leaders! Stay Children!

Fathers are reproductive! Today men are reproducing many children, but out of fornication and adultery. This is only rebellion and boys seeking love in wrong ways and places! Fathering is another not THAT!

Fathering is men staying and loving their wife and children and training them to be self-controlled and disciplined and productive. Rule of thumb:

1. Boys need to be managed and told what to do! They are in training.
2. Young men are learning independence and to be self-controlled, taking personal responsibility for their own lives and for their future wife and family.
3. Fathers KNOW what is right! They train their family to do right! Because it is right.

We accuse leaders as corrupt! Yet corruption did not start at the TOP! Corruption starts in the home with lack of self-control and respect for what is right! Every man is now doing what is right in his own eyes! See the outcomes every day in the media, movies, games, courts, and every time you hear the thought: “that is unfair!”

Every man needs a father like Paul, who saw and took Timothy and taught him the right way. The prisons are full of fatherlessness! People struggling with poor self-image and identity. If you ask the right questions, you will discover the real culprit!

Fatherlessness produces boys! Where are the men? Boys need supervision as they are without self-control; Self-discipline; Not taking personal responsibility; Still blaming others! JESUS is the example of what we were created to be like! How far are we from the picture of Malachi 4, last verse. Still under a curse of fatherlessness! Boys!

Children to young men are fathered!

Young boys to old boys had no fathering!

Questions:

1. Where are their fathers? Who; Where; What were they?  
2. Are fathers in their own homes, with their own children; Sons; Daughters!?
3. Chaos or Peace? What went wrong? Change and Engage the True-Today!    

Cultures change around the world, but this one issue always remains: Father!?

It is our foundation and formation of what GOD is like!

1. Angry? Unfaithful? Fearful? Abuser? Abandoned? Absent? Etc.

(Unique: If father dies pre-maturely, there seems to be a grace on the child to know they were not rejected, but somehow loved. It was not his choice; In general sense.)  

• Provider; Protector; Love; Kind; Fair; Responsible; Faithful; Keeps Promises! 

Proverbs is full of father and son chats!

Few fathers take time to teach Wisdom! What is Wisdom?

This is the teaching of right and doing it, and avoiding wrong! Simplest Biblical definition. 

1. To love, honor, guard, protect, defend what is right!
2. To hate, stand up against; to punish and root out all that is wrong!

Proverbs speak much on fatherly advice for: “My son!” There are many instructions telling us what is right and wrong and how to live in such a way GOD’s blessing abides on our lives, no matter our circumstances. Even a poor man can live in peace with his family. While at the same time, a rich man, with all his wealth lives in battles of lusts he can fulfill in chaos, pride, arrogance, self-ambition and every evil way, greedily fulfilling his flesh! The poor man can do that too, lusting after wealth, gambling to get what he did not work for! Chaos of sin! We need fathers to call us home to love, security and training.  

Little Children:

1. Know your sins are forgiven! Each one must deal with his own sins! Childhood is the discovery of sin, discipline, or lack of it leading to chaos in child’s life. Discipline protects the child from harming themselves or harming others.

Children have the capacity for anger, defiance, rage, cursing, tantrums, fighting with fists and biting. A real capacity for love and goodness, but also even the demonic activities as well-IF not curved. A child needs discipline, correction, and cultivation of engaging and healthy relationships! From home, to school, to work, to their own family, and community activities, and finally leadership in business or government!  

• Children need their sins forgiven, discipline restores the right and cleans the soul. It is true in Spiritual matters as well, for His Name sake: All are born in sin! People are not born good and learn to sin; rather, we are born in sin, and learn to do good! Every child learns “NO” first! Where did that come from! Trying to train them right-they learn what is wrong, and seem to do that-first! They need to learn boundaries; Protect!

• Know your Heavenly Father! This is the beginning of the fear-respect-honor-reverence or Awe of the LORD! It is here, the Bible says is the beginning of:

Wisdom; Knowledge; Instruction; Righteousness; Life itself. Discipline is critical in learning…

Young Men: Are boys becoming men!

1. They are strong! Muscles! Self-disciplined! Self-behaved! Self-governing!  
2. Power! Power to overcome obstacles! Challenges! Decision making!
3. Affirmed: “Atta-boy! You’re the man! Be the man! Proud of you man!”
4. Overcomer: building strength, not yielding to personal lusts, having self-control!

Where are the fathers teaching their sons to guard themselves against persons who want to carouse and sleep around in fornication-sin!  

Virginity is mocked! But with each affair and conquest or failure, part of the soul is lost, tarnished, brutalized. Until, we ask: “What is love?” The soul is empty!

We were made for Love; it is in the core of man! To be loved! Appreciated! Celebrated!

That ignition was to come from father! Fathering is an art, skill, impartation of one’s self into their likeness! That was designed to be the greatest pleasure, as ABBA expressed over Adam when he created him, and gave him work to do in the Garden of Eden. GOD coming every day in the cool of the day to ASK: “Adam, what did you do today?”

GOD listened to Adam share all the wonderful things he had discovered! Adam enjoyed The LORD…in the cool of the day! What an amazing picture! THAT is the True Picture of what a Father/Son bond looks like! ABBA listened to His Son! Celebrated his discoveries! Wow!

Men-where are your sons? ASK them and listen and celebrate their life! Affirm and bless!

I write to you Father: because you have known Him, Who is from the beginning!

Fathers know their True Father; ABBA! We know our Creator-and we are JOINED to Him! We find great pleasure in each other! Look at the desires for communion together:

⁴One thing I have desired of the Lord, that will I seek: That I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord, and to inquire in His temple.

⁵For in the time of trouble He shall hide me in His pavilion; In the secret place of His tabernacle He shall hide me; He shall set me high upon a rock. Psalm 27.

¹Do not fret because of evildoers, nor be envious of the workers of iniquity.

²For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb.

³Trust in the Lord, and do good; Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.

⁴Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37

Soak in the thoughts of what this means for you: ABBA/you delighting and sharing with one another in true interest, identity in Father and son relationship, in the cool of the day setting.

No jabs! No putdowns-belittling; Only affirmation, pleasure, delight, “You’re the man! Proud of you son!”

“Yea Dad; You’re the Greatest Dad-ever!” What amazing words to say, and mean from the heart! Sound so strange, don’t they! Yet that is what we all long for, with GOD-too!

Start Point: Overcomer: “LORD JESUS COME….”

⁵Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.

⁶He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday.

⁷Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who brings wicked schemes to pass.

⁸Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret—it only causes harm. Psalm 37.

⁵ Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding;

⁶ In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.

⁷ Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the Lord and depart from evil.

⁸ It will be health to your flesh, and strength to your bones.

⁹ Honor the Lord with your possessions, and with the firstfruits of all your increase;

¹⁰ So your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will overflow with new wine.

¹¹ My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor detest His correction;

¹² For whom the Lord loves He corrects, just as a father the son in whom he delights.

¹³ Happy is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding;

¹⁴ For her proceeds are better than the profits of silver, and her gain than fine gold. ¹⁵She is more precious than rubies, and all the things you may desire cannot compare with her.

¹⁶ Length of days is in her right hand, in her left hand riches and honor. ¹⁷Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace. Proverbs 3.